If you’re tired of running, chasing, and dreaming about a better life and are serious about creating massive change, look no further than the mirror. Change starts with the thoughts inside your head. Here’s eight new ways of thinking, or mindsets, that will help to unlock your inner warrior so you can live your best personal, financial and professional life.
Self-acceptance means embracing who you are without any conditions, qualifications, or exceptions. It means accepting where you’ve been and rather than running or hiding from your past, recognizing it made you who you are today. With self-acceptance, you will no longer look to others for validation and accreditation. You’ll honor who you are deep in your soul and will be able to make decisions that will serve you well.
Self-love means you put yourself first and hold yourself capable of taking action which is in your best interest. It means believing you can live a life of significance on your own terms and are worthy of creating the impact, influence and income you desire.
Self-love also means rejecting the limitations others put on you, and courageously advocating for what you deserve. When you love yourself, you surround yourself with positive people who want you to become the best version of yourself and hold you capable of your fullest potential.
Belief. Your values and beliefs should guide your behaviors and give you a code of conduct to follow. Without a firm grasp on your core beliefs, it’s easy to become listless. You’ll spend a lot of time and energy wandering, unsure of where your efforts will lead. Prioritization is nearly impossible because you don’t know the one, two or three things to do each day to bring you joy. It becomes easier to go with the flow, let others make decisions, and wait-and-see where the current of life takes you.
When you have alignment between your actions and beliefs, you gain conviction and confidence in your ability to make decisions because you aren’t trying to appease others. It allows you to prioritize how to spend your time and resources.
Desire is the cementing reason behind what motivates you and provides you with the fuel you need to conquer the obstacles that scatter your journey towards your life goals. When you satisfy into your heart’s desire, you become fulfilled, appreciative, and joyous. If you feel like you are merely going through the motions, doing what you are “supposed” to do but still feeling empty inside, chances are you haven’t tapped into your heart’s desire.
Any goal worth having is going to take work. Your desire will provide you with the sense of excitement, fulfillment, and accomplishment needed to pursue your goals
Purpose. Knowing your purpose – or Your “Why” — will enable you to be proactive about where you want to be and what you want to be doing. It gives you a guilt-free way to decline any opportunities that do not support your higher purpose. Your purpose gives you confidence; and, when confidence builds, your doubts die, and your heart aligns with your actions.
When you know your true purpose or calling in life, you’ll trade in salary and titles as measuring sticks of success for the level of impact you can have on others. The issue of what to do with your life will get turned on its head, and you’ll begin to ask what your life can do for others. And, that’s when the magic happens.
Perseverance Some people react to death, divorce, cancer, disabilities, or any other adversity with unwavering confidence that they will get through it and be okay on the other side. Others fall apart. Some people accept no for an answer, while others figure out a way to make a no, yes. The difference is that some people have developed the ability to persevere through adversity.
A perseverance mindset is having the grit to put in the work, endure the rough times, and shape your outcomes. People with a perseverance mindset get things done, no matter what else is going on in their lives. They’re committed to long-term goals and are willing to work hard despite challenges, and failures.
Abundance. Someone with an abundance mentality believes there is no limit to love, resources, happiness, career success, or wealth. With an abundant mindset, you are open to new experiences and comfortable allowing things to come into your life even if you don’t have all the answers. You are confident you will figure it out and be able to adjust to whatever situation life throws your way.
The opposite of an abundance mindset is scarcity. Someone with a scarcity mindset views the world as limited, they are pessimistic and expect that boundaries and obstacles stand in the way of their goals. These are the people who live paycheck to paycheck, or are afraid to spend money, or spend the moment they earn because they feel like they may run out of time or money, or both! With a scarcity mentality, the focus is on never having quite enough.
Gratitude has the power to improve every area of your life. When you give gratitude space in your mind and your heart, your blessings will grow.
People with a grateful mindsets report being happier and healthier. They achieve more, pay it forward more frequently, are more engaged with others, and tend to be more morally alert. They also have lower levels of stress, make more effective business leaders, and increase their capacity for goal achievement and productivity.
When you pay attention to what you are thankful for, space is created in your mind for more positive things to influence your life. It’s the law of attraction. When the negative becomes the focus, more negative comes to mind.
These mindsets are quite literally, the secrets to my success. They have gotten me through hell and back in my personal life. They’ve taken me from a single mom hustling to make ends meet and provide a better life for her children, to becoming a leader of one of the fastest growing financial service companies in the country. They dictate my inner dialogue and form the basis for how I view the world and how others perceive me. And I do believe they have the power to unlock your inner warrior and help you become the best possible version of yourself.